Aren't We Enough?
September 17, 2017Have we ever looked inside to figure out what is really happening? Do we really want a relationship, or are we merely longing for love and security? Are we ready for a healthy, stable relationship or are we simply too afraid of being alone? Is the thought of a future with no one beside you completely blows you off your feet that you’d be willing to jump on anyone with ‘available’ lights on their heads?
Being in a beautiful relationship is undoubtedly a mini paradise on earth. Being in love is magical and wonderful. I bet the butterflies in your stomach feel amazing beyond words. I’d vote for love any given time. Hell, it’s nice to have regular hoo-hoo. But being obsessed over (the idea of) love, relationship and marriage is something else.
Alone. Is it such a scary word? Can we be content and satisfied with who we are and what we have, without over-thinking or regretting the fact that we, here in this moment, are alone?
Aren’t we enough?
Once one of my best friend ask me: why I don't date?
"Well, I am quite good looking, with nice pins and fashion sense..." (NO. There’s nothing wrong with having confidence in your looks, right?)
Darl, I'm true player so I love a lot, but I was. Eventually I just stopped for a good damn year because some uni shit and stuffs. And now I can’t see why guys would be so important, an integral essence in my life, and that sometimes, they can even be dickheads. Not forget they are a pain and a waste of my emotions. So long story short, I stop trying.
"Kenapa? Tinggi banget ya standar lo?"
Hmm... I guess there’s nothing wrong with knowing what you want. I mean having any requirements for a person you're gonna invest time/money/energy is not wrong at all. Do you want to ended up with a frat-ass-boy like this one below?
I guess you don't want to.
After the conversation, he told me this out of nowhere:
"A new cleansheet record, good for you"
Yeah, now I'm finna turn back the same million dollar question, and this is his answer:
"I want to have an easy life, girls are still pain in any form" (LMAO tru dat)
"Hey, but you're funny enough to have a date. Go get one!"
"For my love for God, man, funny guys don't get laid, I'm done stating the fact."
Oh My Gee, this is why I have high standards, LOL.
Anyway we cannot dictate how we find our partner, the only thing we can control is who we are. So I urge myself to focus my energy and fire on my study, work, career, health, family, friends, values, abilities and the things that I am passionate in. I don't know but I believe if I start prioritize putting myself first and build an environment where I can be powerful, somehow its going to attract the right person who is going to complement my character and life. I still have lots of things that can keep me alive in this early adulthood process with tons of conflicts in teenage dreams, so I'll still be grindin' with that anyways, then ya kno who's poppin' bottles :)
I don’t think our happiness, or our well being for that matter should depend on the existence of someone else. Because as much as it sounds like a denial, I truly believe that each of us is good enough, at least for ourselves, to the point that being alone should not hinder us from leading a joyful life. Because the absence of a significant other is only a situation, not a death penalty.
"Well, I am quite good looking, with nice pins and fashion sense..." (NO. There’s nothing wrong with having confidence in your looks, right?)
Darl, I'm true player so I love a lot, but I was. Eventually I just stopped for a good damn year because some uni shit and stuffs. And now I can’t see why guys would be so important, an integral essence in my life, and that sometimes, they can even be dickheads. Not forget they are a pain and a waste of my emotions. So long story short, I stop trying.
"Kenapa? Tinggi banget ya standar lo?"
Hmm... I guess there’s nothing wrong with knowing what you want. I mean having any requirements for a person you're gonna invest time/money/energy is not wrong at all. Do you want to ended up with a frat-ass-boy like this one below?
I guess you don't want to.
After the conversation, he told me this out of nowhere:
"A new cleansheet record, good for you"
Yeah, now I'm finna turn back the same million dollar question, and this is his answer:
"I want to have an easy life, girls are still pain in any form" (LMAO tru dat)
"Hey, but you're funny enough to have a date. Go get one!"
"For my love for God, man, funny guys don't get laid, I'm done stating the fact."
Oh My Gee, this is why I have high standards, LOL.
Anyway we cannot dictate how we find our partner, the only thing we can control is who we are. So I urge myself to focus my energy and fire on my study, work, career, health, family, friends, values, abilities and the things that I am passionate in. I don't know but I believe if I start prioritize putting myself first and build an environment where I can be powerful, somehow its going to attract the right person who is going to complement my character and life. I still have lots of things that can keep me alive in this early adulthood process with tons of conflicts in teenage dreams, so I'll still be grindin' with that anyways, then ya kno who's poppin' bottles :)
I don’t think our happiness, or our well being for that matter should depend on the existence of someone else. Because as much as it sounds like a denial, I truly believe that each of us is good enough, at least for ourselves, to the point that being alone should not hinder us from leading a joyful life. Because the absence of a significant other is only a situation, not a death penalty.
Enough now. Let's talk about something else, how's your last relationship end?
Mine was: "The girl that I am falling in love with wasn't such a goddamn bitch"
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Mine was: "The girl that I am falling in love with wasn't such a goddamn bitch"
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